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It began my sophomore year of college. I’ve never had many serious relationships. In fact, just one I can recall. Men weren’t beating down my door to take me out. I was working for my Dad, as I did throughout college. They told me about his reputation before his first day with the company. It is amazing how little it takes to get a girl to ignore warnings, do things she knew was wrong and fall for his lies. We’ve all been in a place in our lives where we’d do almost anything for someone who made us feel special. Does it make my actions justified? HELL NO! That’s just how it happened.
His “innocent” flirtation started immediately. It didn’t take long for things to become intimate. We spent a lot of time together and I thought he truly cared about me. He would tell his wife that he was working and would even sneak out of the house after she’d fallen asleep to spend time with me. Ultimately, he was just selfish. He wanted to make certain I didn’t have time to go out and meet other men. Someone who would take me away from him. He wanted to make sure I wouldn’t do to him what he was doing to his wife.
My parents caught us once. They had stopped by my apartment one evening. His truck was parked in front. I answered the door in a robe. It doesn’t get much more obvious. I was read the riot act: What are you doing? You know better? We told you about him? Do you think we are talking just to be talking? Do you really think he’s going to leave his wife? It’s going to end and end now!
I DID think he was going to leave his wife. After all, I was different than the other affairs he had. I was special. Boy, was I naïve!!!
Our relationship continued until I graduated from college and moved to Kansas City. Approximately six months after I moved, I finally decide to end it. He kept saying he was NOW ready to leave his wife. After all this time, I decided I didn’t want him. Thank God something finally went off in my head!!!
As you could imagine, things got a little ugly when he realized he was no longer in control. I don’t want to get into the details, but things ended with my Dad negotiating the exchange of an opal ring he’d given me for some Polaroid snap shots of me.
He still works for Dad. My Mom has seen his wife wearing the ring. I know you are not going to believe this, he’s still cheating on her. Once a cheater, always a cheater, especially this one!
It’s not something I’m proud of in my life, but it did make me stronger!
